[I wrote this for my blog but I’m reposting it here because the discrimination against M/M spanking in the spanking scene is a total kink in my kink as Natty would say. It makes me feel bad about myself and being part of this scene. It’s a face of homophobia, something I don’t tolerate in any part of my life and I’m done tolerating in the spanking scene. Be warned.]
As many of you know, I’m not exactly white. I’m Mexican American or as I prefer to call myself, Chicana. My father and my grandparents were born here in Los Angeles, but my great-grandparents came up from Zacatecas, Mexico. I grew up in Los Angeles where having a white mother didn’t make me anything but Mexican. That said, I didn’t experience too much discrimination. My parents were very careful, protecting my sister, brother and me from the hate and fear that my father’s face and skin color could evoke. Still, up through the 1980s, they had a hard time moving into white neighborhoods. Realtors refused to show them homes, tried to steer them to the browner parts of town. And this was with my mother being white.
My uncle’s family experienced all that and much more. My cousins don’t have a white mother to temper their skin tone and that color’s effect on the neighborhood. When they moved into a white part of town, a “welcome wagon” met them with a chicken casserole and a request that they keep their children in the backyard for fear the sight of these brown children would lower property values.
So what you say? Sad, but these are different times, right?
I say wrong and I’m calling our spanking community out on it. What groups like Crimson Moon and Ms. Margaret’s SCONY are doing by not allowing M/M spanking in their groups, what SpankingTube is doing by not having M/M searches come up in their general search is the same damn thing as racial redlining was in a previous generation. It maybe legally right, but it’s ethically reprehensible.
But, but, some people don’t like M/M spanking. So what? I don’t like oral sex. I don’t ask that it be banned or shunted off into a corner so I don’t have to stumble upon it. I just avert my gaze and look at something I do like. For those of you who think you can’t learn to stomach M/M spanking, I urge you to free your mind and grow the fuck up. If your arousal is so fragile that the sight or suggestion of M/M spanking can take it down, you may need some medical help. Not everything in the scene has to exist specifically to get you off.
But, but, you agree with me. Really. You wish these spanking groups or SpankingTube didn’t discriminate. Then live your beliefs. Don’t patronize them. Don’t use their sites. Don’t go to their parties. And let them know why you’re not. That you’d like to, but because of their policy toward M/M spanking in our scene, you can’t. Then go places like Shadow Lane and SF-CP that are open to everyone whatever their orientation.
But, but, Mija, you’re ranting.
Yes. Yes I am. Don’t hate. You know you don’t want to. And don’t support people who can and do.
PS. What did my uncle do? He had his twin brother move in next door with his family. And then two put up a basketball hoop so all the kids played outside in the street, property values be damned.