Lurking Out Loud

Hi there.

Yes, we can see you.  Well, sort of anyway.  Our stat counter frequently tells us that there’s more than a thousand readers a day here.  Okay, so some of those are hits from people doing a quick look for pictures (sorry folks) and then moving on.  But a lot of you stay and read.  Some of you comment (and we’re glad of that), but others don’t say anything.

This post is for you.  Because we understand — we’ve all lurked too.  It’s easy to wonder if your comments would be welcome.  Maybe you disagree with something one of us posted (that’s fine, fun even).  We’re all used to disagreement.  Or maybe it seems like we just talk to each other and a small circle of friends.  It is true we know each other, but we want to know you too.   

Go on, post a comment.  What about?  Anything.  Maybe a favorite book? 

I’ll start.  For me, I think my favorite book of all time is Pride and Prejudice (with Jane Eyre running a close second).  I read it the first time at 12 and remember loving it then.  And every time I’ve read it since I’ve found something new to enjoy in the text.  What do I love most about it?  That both Elizabeth and Darcy have to change and develop.  There’s something very romantic about that.

Okay, your turn!  And if you’re a regular or irregular commenter, go ahead and say hi too!

Many thanks to the amazing Bonnie at My Bottom Smarts for organizing Love Our Lurkers day!

39 thoughts on “Lurking Out Loud

  1. luna

    I lurk, I read, I wonder about everyone who is a contributor here and all the tidbits of life that flow from these pages. And now, I’ve been exposed!
    My favorite book, isn’t my highly recommended one. Odd isn’t it? My favorite book is Kushiel’s Dart by Jacqueline Carey. Ubber yummy on the subtle SM and adventure! My highly recommended book is Blindness by Jose Saramago. If you liked 1984 by George Orwell, then you’ll like this one.

  2. domino

    Well – I can’t say as what I’m a lurker type, not since about 1988 anyways…
    Books… ooh – I don’t think it’s possible to decide which is my favourite – hell I think I’d have trouble listing 100 favourites!
    Favourite authors (non-kink) Ol’ Jane would have to be in there, of course, but I’m also very fond of Robert Heinlein and Elizabeth Goudge. Agatha Christie, Maeve Binchy and Joanna Trollope are on that list too.
    Kink is far easier – Angela Richards wrote 4 books – school stories, entitled :
    Sent for 6 of the Best
    The School Record
    The Saturday Afternoon Detention and
    The Cane that lost its Sting
    I have all of them and I love them 🙂 – they can be bought from
    I’m also very tempted, but haven’t yet succumbed by some of the titles at
    Oh – and I think all you writers here deserve a Long Hard Spanking each for only have two posts since mid september!

  3. jovee

    Well I do comment sometimes! But feel obliged to after that post.
    And I am sitting on a very sore bottom indeed, having been very thoroughly spanked for being very thoroughly provocative and I have to confess I very thoroughly deserved it.
    Yes, enjoyed all the Jane Austen, and Jane Eyre was much loved too.
    But to unwind nowadays I re-read children’s novels- helps empty work from my head and aids a good night’s sleep. I really need to sleep well at night with this ME and then I can keep going for 6-7hrs or so the next day- so long as weekends are very quiet.
    Really enjoyed ‘The Island’ by Victoria Hislop in the summer -think that was the name- about a leper colony- very beautifully written.
    And I need an early night tonight- as getting over- tired leads to crankiness on my part, extreme bolshiness and an irresistable urge to be foul-mouthed..which is why I was SO spanked today. So no late-night reading now. Night night and bestest wishes, Jovee

  4. maiasaura

    Hi! I’ve never lurked here before, but I followed the link from My Bottom Smarts, and I thought I’d comment in honor of the day.
    I think my favorite book is A Tale of Two Cities by Dickens, although I really like Pride and Prejudice, too!
    I’ll be checking back occasionally to see what’s going on here!

  5. Iris

    Holy cow! We have some seriously erudite readers: Austen and Dickens and such. I don’t have one favorite book, though I am awfully enamored of the writings of Anne Lamott, L.M. Montgomery, Kevin Henkes, Kathleen Norris, Patricia Polacco, and Vladimir Nabokov. Welcome to all you lovely lurkers, followers, commenters, and assorted others (feel free to choose your own category). 🙂

  6. Angie

    Favorite book of all time? Seriously? That’s like asking me to choose my favorite candy bar. It simply can’t be done. My favorite authors in college were Whitman and Thoreau. I’ve tried picking both of them back up and have found that without the chance to go sit in that GORGEOUS, nerdy, “oh my gosh I wish he’d spank me” prof’s class and discuss their writing, I’m really not that in to them. (Three classes I took studying these guys. The transcendentalists were practically my minor. Turns out I just really liked Dr. Miller. *sigh*)
    Oh! I absolutely ADORE “Frankenstein.” One of the best books I’ve ever had the pleasure to be made to read. I encourage EVERYONE to read it. (And when you’re done, watch Young Frankenstein – the Mel Brooks movie – and laugh your ass off.)
    And of course, I absolutely LOVE Harry Potter books and I feel no shame in saying that. They are masterpieces if for no other reason than they can take me away to another world and I’m *lost* for as long as I’m holding them in my hands. The stress in my life is so often overwhelming that anything that can do that fills me with absolute joy.
    Other authors I recommend – truly: Kurt Vonnegut (we lost him this last year – that was like a punch in the stomach to me), Joyce Carol Oates, and Alice Walker. I have never been disappointed by ANYTHING I’ve picked up by any of the three of these authors. Alice Walker’s “The Color Purple” is to be read, read again, and then read again — and as much of it out loud as you can possibly do. The language is meant to be treasured. The same can be said for her “The Temple of My Familiar.”
    (Can you tell I’m a bibliophile at times? Don’t EVEN get me started. Ha!)

  7. Bonnie

    Sorry, there will be no classical literary recommendations from me. I was a journalism major! ;D
    I’m glad you were able to join in the fun today. I love meeting the people behind the numbers and quite a few came out of the shadows this year. Thank you!
    Hugs to All,

  8. Kare

    Thank you for this post 🙂 I can’t really explain why, but this has given me the confident to…well, to sum it up, this is my first post anywhere on this subject (although i’ve been a lurker for a while). Sometimes, I guess, you just need to be given an open chance. So again, thanks for that 🙂
    Books…hmm…well, I’m not a huge fan of Pride and Prejudice, but I do love Jane Eyre (This actually stems from my love the musical). My favorite author of all time, though, is actually Sarah Dessen. her books are amazing (all young adult novels); I’d highly recommend them. (she’s also Tar Heel born and bred, so our college allegiances match up).

  9. Bridget

    I’ve been a lurker for a while, but it turns out that a glass of wine, a little salsa dancing, and a discussion about books is enough to draw me out before I head off to bed. Favorite book of all time has to be Wuthering Heights. I can definitely get on board with anything Jane Austen as well, so let me just say that Emma rocks. And Harry Potter? Of course!

  10. Rose

    Hello! Boy, did you pick out a topic for me! I’m a grad student in literature, so I’ve got TONS of “favorite” books…
    Hmmm… Jane Eyre was excellent. I’m a bit of a freak in the lit world, though, because although I really enjoy Victorian lit, I’ve always been unimpressed with Austen. I suspect that has more to with how many times Pride and Prejudice was assigned reading rather than a real lack of quality. I recently read Mansfield Park for pure enjoyment, and I really liked it. A lesser known Victorian writer, Elizabeth Gaskell, is actually a favorite of mine. I’ve read one of her books, Ruth, many times.
    As for others, I love Dostoyevsky’s Crime and Punishment. Angie is absolutely right about Alice Walker’s The Color Purple. Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon is another absolute favorite, although all of her books are excellent. Margaret Atwood’s Alias Grace, Cat’s Eye, and The Blind Assassin were all excellent. Jeffrey Eugenides’ Middlesex is mind-blowingly amazing, as are Ann-Marie MacDonald’s books Fall on Your Knees, and The Way The Crow Flies. John Irving’s A Prayer for Owen Meany is so good that not only have I read it multiple times, but the last time I finished it, I just held it in my lap for a while because I didn’t want to let it go (I guess I just came out of the dork closet).
    I also love Gabriel Garcia Marquez (wish I could read his work in the original Spanish), James Baldwin, Flannery O’Connor… I could go on and on…
    Oh, and as for poets, e.e. cummings and Li-Young Lee are probably my favorites.
    It has been absolutely killing me that I can’t italicize these titles…

  11. Sara

    Hi Gals, I have long lurked here, and just love the community you provide…a place where discussions can evolve. Also a place that offers a diverse perspective on spanking, Dd, etc. Just wanted to say how much I enjoy and appreciate what you have done here with this blog! Sara

  12. Rose

    Oooo yeah! I can’t believe I forgot about that one! To Kill a Mockingbird is awesome! I always wanted Atticus to be my dad. I can’t even remember how old I was the first time I read that book. I must have been pretty young. And I can’t count how many times I’ve reread it since then…

  13. W

    I think I count as a lurker, so I’ll weigh in.
    I mostly read children’s lit as well- Tamora Pierce is my latest favorite author but I love them all. Books I’ve read lately and enjoyed- Harry Sue (if you count sobbing loudly on the train “enjoyment”), Ida B, Welcome To The Ark (AMAZING BOOK!!!), Beverly Cleary, etc… They’re SOOTHING. Course, rereading the Anne Of Green Gables books as an adult makes you realize what a spanko she was…
    I just re-read the Diana Gabaldon time traveling series and am rereading the Tales of The City series by Armistead Maupin in order to read his new one. I also like those popular things like Life Of Pi and The Memory Keeper’s Daughter.
    Course, then, I’ll be in the market for a good new book!

  14. sparkle

    Okay, I *love* The Pushcart War by Jean Merrill. Yes, it is children’s literature :). Suggestion, though… start by checking the copyright date because the ‘forward’ is part of the story. I was confused by that as a 10-year-old, when it wasn’t even 1986 yet. *laughing*
    And then there was Little Women and the Chronicles of Narnia and some of L. Frank Baum’s lesser known pieces of writing like The Life & Adventures of Santa Claus.
    As an adult, I really like are the common Tolkien classics, everything by C.S. Lewis, Ragman & Other Cries of Faith by Walter Wangerin, Pilgrim’s Progress by John Bunyan, Around the World in 80 Days by Jules Verne, Night by Elie Wiesel, and a smattering of others (including a few ‘guilty’ pleasures, yes)…
    Great question, Mija 🙂

  15. Maia

    Hi guys –
    So, this is it, my big de-lurk. Thankyou for giving us this opportunity to start posting and to join in the big happy family! And thankyou for months (if not years!) of entertainment and insight you’ve provided through your posts. =]
    Ok, Literature. This should be easy – I’m a Literature major. Hmmmmm, perhaps that makes is harder!
    Any Stephen Fry, Neil Gaiman, or Primo Levi. Poetry? Christina Rossetti is pretty big on my list right now, and perhaps even some Plath!

  16. Angie

    For some reason, Maia mentioning Plath did this train of thought thing in my mind (mental illness, I guess – not my own, but the theme, LOL) that brought me to the short story, “The Yellow Wallpaper.” I can’t remember the author (for which I should be soundly whipped since I’ve read it a dozen times), but it is an incredible story. I would recommend reading it and then reading some criticism of it online, and then re-reading. (You can actually find the entire story online – I would give you the URL but I’m lazy right now and don’t feel like googling.) A friend and I had a very lively discussion one night about whether the woman was suffering from post-partum depression, or something else. Either way – I believe it was very early 20th (or late 19th?) century and the themes of treatment of people with mental illness, and the subjugation of women are very strong and good to read if you’re needing something to blog about — it can get your juices flowing, that story!
    So excited to see our “lurkers” coming out to say Hello. 🙂

  17. Magdalena

    Wow, I wish I’d checked back before all of my favorite books were taken!
    This is a de-lurk for me as well, and I really appreciate the invite.
    As for reading material, I too am a Tamora Pierce fan, I’m currently re-reading “Trickster’s Choice” and “Trickster’s Queen”, and I just finished Middlesex (which was excellent). Also in my too-read pile are some Terry Pratchett and some Laurell K. Hamilton (The Merry Gentry series, Anita Blake doesn’t do it for me.) And Anne McAfferey was a childhood favorite who’s appeal has yet to fade.

  18. melissa

    *perks up*
    Books are my favorite topic. Well, besides the obvious topic that brought me to this blog in the first place.
    I recently began a series of reading ‘traditional southern fiction’- and although I loathe his other work, Pat Conroy’s “The Prince of Tides” has a lyrical hold over me that I cannot describe. I now have two copies, a hardback and a paperback marked up with passages and blocks that rock me.
    My first Valentine’s with my boyfriend, he gave me classic novels- one bring “Pride and Prejudice”, so it has a place in my heart.
    I am also a fan of the “Harry Potter” series.

  19. Angie

    Absolutely correct, Rose. I never would’ve guessed it, but when you said it I was like, “Oh yeah, duh.” 🙂

  20. Dyke Grrl

    I think that, as a contributor to the blog, I don’t count as a lurker, but if the topic is books, then I HAVE to respond.
    Charlotte Perkins Gilman also wrote “Herland,” which is a (late 19th century) feminist utopia. My mind now boggles at how long it’s been since I read those books.
    Like W., I mostly read kids’ books. I also like a very particular strain of the fantasy genre (can’t entirely define it, but mainly, *not* the Epic Fantasie). I’ve really been enjoying Terry Pratchett lately. He’s on the very short list of male authors whose work I enjoy. The other one I can think of offhand is Charles DeLint.
    I also really like Robin McKinley, Tamora Pierce, Patricia Wrede, Caroline Stevermer, Dianna Wynne Jones… there are dozens more, but those are on the top of my mind.
    I enjoy J.K. Rowling, Eva Ibbotson, Mercedes Lackey, Anne McCaffrey…
    When I’m reading history, I find both Patricia Nelson Limerick and Linda Gordon to be genuinely engaging writers, as well as good historians (good historians outnumber engaging writers in books of history).
    When I’m in the mood for mysteries, I like Elizabeth Peters (though, strangely, I don’t enjoy Barbara Michaels as much, even though the two names are the same person). Also Sharyn McCrumb.
    But my tastes are decidedly lowbrow. All this education, and I fritter it away reading things that I could have comprehended when I was twelve. ;P

  21. hermione

    I come here often but have never commented until today, because I *think* I finally can say I have had a punishment. I had quite an excellent spanking yesterday, and when I had thanked my husband, I added that I needed that. He replied, “You certainly did”. So methinks he might have been doing a little attitude adjusting along with administering erotic pleasure. Who knows where it might lead?
    Books? I love Anne Rivers Siddons. She writes novels about life in the Southern U.S.

  22. Red

    Hi! I’ve been reading, but never posted a comment here. Surprising, in that you guys really epitomize what my core kink is, and what I want out of this thing of ours.
    Books. Books. My favorite book of all time is Tom Sawyer. I base this on sheer number of times I’ve re-read it, and although most of those readings took place years ago, I’d still have to say I love that book best. I think at one point I damn near had the whole thing memorized …
    Following that? Maybe JK Rowlings and the Harry Potter series. I’d love to say I have these oh-so-highbrow tastes, but I read purely for escapism and entertainment. Life sucks sometimes, and I want my books to help me forget that.
    Love your blog …

  23. Martin

    Just checking in from Lurker Central with some of my favourite reads.
    The Time of our Singing by Richard Powers, a number of beautiful stories woven together by someone who truly understands what words are for.
    A.S. Byatt’s Possession is a literary mystery that segues into an emotional voyage of (self) discovery. It also manages to be a satire on the biography industry. A true tour de force and I never tire of re-reading it.
    Supposedly based on a real murder, Jennifer Donnely’s A Gathering Light made me care so much what happened to Mattie I was almost surprised when the book ended and I resurfaced from this enchanted world to discover she was really just a character in a book.
    The Secret History, by Donna Tartt reveals the ending in the opening chapter, and the mystery then is not who does what to whom, but much more intriguingly, why? Brilliant!
    You won’t find John Berendt’s Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil in the fiction section of your bookshop, but it reads as though you should.
    …and finally, I am currently working on a picture based on a scene from Rubicon by Tom Holland, which is also not fiction but reads as though it is. It is subtitled, The Triumph and Tragedy of the Roman Republic, and sweeps the reader through 154 years of the most exciting of times lived at full speed by some astonishing men.

  24. Mary

    I loved this book call A Separate Peace. It made an impression on me when I was a teen, and I read it 3 times. As an adult I read it and found it good but not quite as moving. I pondered the reason. In the book a person is permanently injured by a brief misdeed that wasn’t truly malicious in intent. The lives of both boys were changed, after pondering I think it was the awareness that one moment could change the course of your own or the live of another that gripped me to the core as a teen. Now that I am an adult, I guess I have seen that moments can be life altering and do not find the book quite as gripping. Anyway it is one of the lesser known books that still had an impact on my life.

  25. Dyke Grrl

    Oh! Another book I like (although not as bedtime reading!) is The Giver, by Lois Lowry. It’s creepy but really draws you in. It’s a young adult novel, set in a dystopic future. There are two sequels, which does take away some of the impact of the first (which ended very ambiguously), but the first is definitely the best, I think.

  26. Amanda

    First time commentor, but I thought you might like to know that there’s a great book out there called “The Annotated Pride & Prejudice”. It’s got TONS of information about the things that modern-day readers might not understand, like the different styles of carriages and what they said about a person’s wealth, stuff about the garden trends of the day, dress styles, etc.

  27. Rose

    Ooooo! The Giver is a great book! It’s one of the relatively few books that I’ve reread for the sheer pleasure of it.

  28. Pam

    If by favorite the one most read then it will have to be Little Women. But I think my absolute favorite re-readable book is To Kill a Mockingbird. Pride and Prejudice very close behind. Yes, Jane Eyre. Those are the ones to re-read over and over again. Many I love but don’t want to read over and over again. Oh yes I forgot Mary Stewart. I love her books…not the merlin ones but her semi-mysteries. I love them.

  29. Cindy

    I enjoy this site. I come in to read and relax. I think it is a well put together and intelligent site. In my own life, I have wants/desires to be disciplined/spanked, but have never been able to convince my partner of my needs. I guess that’s why I enjoy reading so much. I think it is wonderful to read about relationships where there is so much mutual respect for one another’s needs. Thank you for keeping this site going. It is a pleasurable site to visit.

  30. Shaina

    Okay, okay…I’m yet another lurker! I love your style of writing and usually check back in every couple of days to lurk…err…read what’s new.
    My favorite book of the moment would be Snow Flower and the Secret Fan.
    Thanks for keeping this site up! It really is refreshing.

  31. Mia

    So time has come to delurk, huh? Well, I suppose it had to happen sooner or later. I found my way to PB after a year of manicly reading Mija and Pablo’s stories over at the Treehouse. I love reading all your stories, and I’m hoping you’ll keep it up for a long time to come.
    Thank you so much for writing!

  32. Daniel

    I’ve been lurking around soc.sexuality.spanking for many years now, as well as visiting sites like Pablo & Mija’s Treehouse, Tasha’s Two Shades of Blue, and not least The Punishment Book. And up until now I don’t think I’ve ever submitted much of anything anywhere, but I want you to know that you make my world a slightly better place by maintaining this site.
    It’s great to read all the comments above and see what others around here read. Time and time again I’m struck by how people with this kink often share my taste in not literature, music etc. I’m definitely going to check out some of the authors mentioned! Hoping to return the favor, some of my favorite authors are Neil Gaiman, Philip Roth, Neal Stephenson and J.M. Coetzee.

  33. Daniel

    Isn’t it awful when you change your mind in the middle of typing a sentence, and you just keep typing without noticing it got all messed up? It’s supposed to be “…people with this kink often share my taste in literature…”, of course.

  34. sissychrissy

    1st books were fantasy (penthouse letters),sorcery ect, piers anthony,annrice michale moorecocke,aldous huxely, isiac asimove,stephan king… however no typing, or spelling , or lurker books.


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